HOW THIS TEST WORKS
How What Is My Relationship Style? works
How version core-v1 is scored, and what it can and cannot tell you.
How it is scored
This test looks at five parts of how people do close relationships. Researchers find that every couple balances a few pulls, such as closeness and independence, routine and something new, and being open and keeping some things private (Baxter and Montgomery, 1996). Couples also handle disagreements in different ways, and many ways can work when partners stay respectful (Gottman, 1994). Trouble often starts when one partner pushes to talk while the other pulls away (Christensen and Heavey, 1990).
The five traits are togetherness, planning, showing feelings, social life, and handling disagreements. The test has 50 sentences, 10 for each trait. Half describe one end of the trait and half describe the other, so agreeing with everything does not push your scores up. Each answer gives 0 to 4 points to its trait. Each trait score runs from 0 to 100 and is read as Low (0 to 33), Medium (34 to 66), or High (67 to 100).
If you are not in a relationship now, think about your last relationship, or how you would like to be in one.
PersonalitySite.com wrote all of these sentences and descriptions. They are not copied from any other test.
What it cannot tell you
This test is for learning about yourself. It is not a diagnosis, and it does not measure how good a partner you are or whether a relationship will last. Do not use it to choose, reject, or judge a partner.
Your style can change with a new partner, your age, and your life. Ideas about relationships also differ across cultures and families. Levels show how you answered. They do not compare you with other people.
This version has not yet been tested with a large group of people, so we do not yet know how accurate it is.